pinkgiraffe
Artemis
The very mysterious Milady de Winter
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Post by pinkgiraffe on Jun 14, 2008 9:03:13 GMT -11
Some of us refer to Phantasma as our little home. People who don't participate in online groups don't really grasp the idea of people being close, even though we aren't together in person. The idea that real, true friendships developing is totally lost on them.
Today has been a contemplative day for me. I participate in two other groups regularly...one is my pregnancy group from when I was expecting Andrew...four years ago, and the other is a women's group on MSN. I joined there at the same time. I've even met a few of the moms in my pregnancy group...two of us went out last night, actually. We have been there for each other through not only our 04 babies, but our babies since, miscarriages, divorces, affairs, weddings, military deployments and the typical bboard BS. The same goes for my other group.
Our little group mainly started as random Skiffy regs who, for whatever reason, gravitated toward each other. It's steadily growing as word gets out about our little place. We are making our little family here.
Today though, one of my little families had a first. We lost a member. She had a brain aneurysm about 10 days ago and survived, but apparently last night her blood pressure shot up, and killed her. Our group came to a screeching halt. This was one of our sisters...and it hurts as much as losing a real relative. She was so young, and full of life, and she is just...gone.
I'm really not sure where the hell I'm going with this, but I needed to get my thoughts out. I also wanted to tell you all that I'm glad you are one of my 'other' families <3
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Post by hoobsmom on Jun 14, 2008 9:34:38 GMT -11
Oh PG, I am so sorry about your friend. I can totally relate to what you wrote here. I have made some wonderful friends here and on Scifi. Some my friends here are closer to me than my friends in my other life. I would be devastated if anything happen to any one of my friends her. I am so lucky have gotten to know all of you. I care deeply about everyone here. There have been times when I have been down and I get a hug in a PM. Or, I got into the chat and every greets me with a friendly welcome. We are here for each other and the people that do not have friends this way are really missing out. Take care PG and if you want to talk you know where I am.
Deb
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Post by LCellini on Jun 14, 2008 9:50:33 GMT -11
(((((PG)))))
i understand how youre feeling. Losing someone close can be shocking and especially when its not expected or the person is young and heathful. I dont live close to any of my family and ive made the friends ive made here in vegas my family.
skiffy was the first time ive ever joined an online thingy and i was one of those people that said they were lame and how can you really make friends on there. im glad that ive talked to many wonderful people on skiffy and the many more wonderful people here on phantasma. we take care of each other and thats what friends do.
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Post by ♥~KarinaKay~♥ on Jun 14, 2008 14:07:42 GMT -11
I'm so sorry, PG! I understand what you're saying. I dated DustinTheWind online for over 2 years and loved him as much as any other male I've been with. I have another wonderful friend I met on skiffy, and we are vacationing together this year. I also met a teacher who helped me deal with my PTSD and get it under control, which none of the 3 therapists I saw had the capability of doing. Online relationships are every bit as real as the people we physically view. They can have the same profound effects on our lives.
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Post by «Foz» on Jun 15, 2008 4:47:51 GMT -11
I'm so sorry about your friend PG. I agree with what everyone's said so far. It's so strange, but very cool, how random strangers who've never actually met can relate and form such close friendships. Many of us have been there to support each other through the crap that life throws at us and that's what true friends do. I love and care about everyone in my Phantasma family.
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Post by xXSpookyXx on Jun 15, 2008 5:22:12 GMT -11
I am so very sorry for your loss PG It is not up to others to dictate to us whom we get close to, or where we chose to get close to others. You know in your heart how close you are to others, whether they live down the street or are seperated by an ocean.
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Post by chrissy on Jun 15, 2008 15:07:39 GMT -11
Sorry for the loss hun. Online is the same if not more emotionally binding since all you do is communicate, which is a reason relationships IRL tend to fail. Lack of communication. On here you are more free to speak openly making you more open and when you become more open and vulnerable you are more easily engaged in a relationship (or all sorts). If you need to talk at all please feel free to get me on msn or here. God speed hun x
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Post by (:Train05:) on Jun 15, 2008 15:18:07 GMT -11
PG this really did hit me a little. You gave us a good speech about our friendship and I feel sad one of your friends passed away. I don't know what I would do if I knew anyone on this board had passed. I hope you will be happier in the future. I am sorry PG.
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Post by krystalmoore1986 on Jun 15, 2008 15:44:48 GMT -11
I am very sorry to hear for your loss hun. We are all here for you!!
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MysticalKnight
Artemis
Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.
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Post by MysticalKnight on Jun 15, 2008 17:32:33 GMT -11
I'm so sorry Pink. Hugs.
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Post by ♥~KarinaKay~♥ on Jun 15, 2008 23:36:17 GMT -11
On here you are more free to speak openly making you more open and when you become more open and vulnerable you are more easily engaged in a relationship (or all sorts). Well said!! People often talk about how fake others can be when they get behind a computer, but on the flip side people can be more direct and honest as well. You can really get to know a person.
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BambiScott
Hermes
This Satedan
RPG Queen
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Post by BambiScott on Jun 16, 2008 3:12:49 GMT -11
PG I'm so sorry for the lost. I understand what you mean. Some people I used to talk online to well I havent talked to them for years and I hope they are doing well. Its sucks when something bad happens to friends even if they are only online friends.
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Post by 2spooked on Jun 27, 2008 3:38:13 GMT -11
pinkgiraffe.. I'm so sorry about your friend. That's tragic. HUGS I'm new to this board, so I apologize if my posting in this thread is ... well, odd in some way. But I wanted to say that while there are a lot of nasty people online, there are some wonderful people as well. I have made a lot of friends- many through my blog/journal (dating back almost 10 yrs now). Most importantly, I met my husband (dmadcat) online, in 1997. This July, we'll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary. Our families both thought we were completely crazy. But now we have two adorable kiddos to show for it!
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Post by «Foz» on Jun 27, 2008 3:47:37 GMT -11
pinkgiraffe.. I'm so sorry about your friend. That's tragic. HUGS I'm new to this board, so I apologize if my posting in this thread is ... well, odd in some way. But I wanted to say that while there are a lot of nasty people online, there are some wonderful people as well. I have made a lot of friends- many through my blog/journal (dating back almost 10 yrs now). Most importantly, I met my husband (dmadcat) online, in 1997. This July, we'll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary. Our families both thought we were completely crazy. But now we have two adorable kiddos to show for it! Congrats on the upcoming anniversary! And welcome to our family!
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Post by 2spooked on Jun 27, 2008 4:22:44 GMT -11
Thanks, I appreciate it
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