Damini
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Post by Damini on Sept 6, 2008 14:44:26 GMT -11
Today, my daughter called me at work to tell me that she had seen a man standing in her doorway to her room. She said he was wearing a blue plaid shirt but she did not see any pants. She said he looked like a farmer but she could not clearly see his face. She watched him until he dissappeared.
She has also seen a (shadow) man standing standing over her bed before, but this is the first time she has seen any detail or color. She was not scared, but the dog ran into the far back of her kennel and would not come out. About a week ago, I woke up in the middle of the night with the dog barking like crazy (who was sleeping in my daughters room). The next morning I asked my daughter why the dog was barking and she said she was barking at the ghost in her room.
I have never seen anything in this house or had any strange experiences, but she has on several occasions. Anyone else have children who have such experiences? (my only paranormal experience also happened when I was a child)
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Post by blondeness on Sept 6, 2008 17:22:42 GMT -11
Yes, Damini- my daughter, 15, has experienced a couple of things in the last few months. Growling in her ear, loud knocking on her wall (which we all actually heard), and a wreath thrown from the wall to her feet. She's the polar opposite of a drama queen, so I give her experiences a lot of credibility. Recently, a door opened on it's own in my home when I was by myself.
Before we moved into this home, my son was gripped with unbelievable terror. In our previous home, he would see three creatures (he called them alligators, but he was only 4 at that time) walk by his door every night and head into my daughter's room. The third one, without fail, would turn and stare into his room. It never harmed him, but he would repeatedly tell us he knew it was evil. He described it as a shimmery green/blue with glowing gold eyes. Every night he would vomit and quake with convulsions.
We saw pediatric gastroenterologists and neurologists; went to sleep labs with him and did sleep deprivation EEG's to monitor his brain activity. All of it to no avail. He lived in mortal terror of bedtime and the creatures that would march by his room. Oddly, my daughter said nothing about any activity in her room. My husband and I, however, would constantly hear footsteps 'crunching' our carpet and walking around in our room. We never saw a thing though.
He is now 11 and tells us he has never seen these creature in this home at all- and talks about it with great relief. I still cannot explain what it is he saw each night or why he vomited and convulsed.
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Post by Damini on Sept 7, 2008 2:01:26 GMT -11
Thanks for your response JJ! I have a tough time figuring out how to talk to her about this. I have 3 children (14,10,8) and this is my 10 year old who has these experinences. The other two believe her but have not had experiences of their own.
I never talked about the experience I had when I was little with my kids, but I know how much my experience scared me and I did not want her to go through that, so I pointed out how these experiences never hurt her, and I did not think it was anything to be afraid of. I was relieved when she described her experience from yesterday and said she was not afraid, but more curious.
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Post by nowhammies on Sept 7, 2008 6:45:12 GMT -11
I think the most important thing that you need to let kids know is that ghosts won't hurt them. They are just people without bodies. This is what I tell our kids. Your attitude towards ghosts will strongly affect theirs.
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Post by blondeness on Sept 7, 2008 8:19:28 GMT -11
Well, yes- to a certain extent. I don't want to feed my kids' fears of the unkown, but I also don't want to dismiss true fear in their lives.
Confession: I have regret for poo-pooing my son's fears all those years. I wonder if he felt he could ever really share with us- I also wonder if he felt very alone in his fears sometimes. It's a tremendous burden for a little guy to bear.
I tried so hard to make him believe nothing was there that I may have made a mistake. Words I meant to use as a means of imparting strength could have just been eroding his confidence that mom and dad believe in him and would ultimately protect him.
When TAPS goes on about how if it involves kids, they consider it a priority, it's the only time I really subscribe to their philosophy. It is a delicate road to navigate as a parent.
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Post by Damini on Sept 7, 2008 10:59:45 GMT -11
It really is. I am glad that she is to a point where she is not afraid, but I wonder if she really should be. I read on another site about shadow people not being good. That is some of what she sees.
I also pondered whether I should tell her to talk to them. My mom says that if she tells them they need to move on, maybe they would, but I don't know if I want her trying to interact. It really is a tough road to travel.
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Post by nowhammies on Sept 7, 2008 12:21:55 GMT -11
You know, JJ, I believe that people do the best they can in any given moment. You did what you thought was right at the time with your kiddo. It was done from love and your intentions were good. That makes you a good mom, and one who doesn't deserve to feel guilty about a choice you made in your child's best interest.
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Post by blondeness on Sept 7, 2008 14:01:53 GMT -11
Thanks for that
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Post by CougarBob on Sept 7, 2008 15:41:01 GMT -11
Well, yes- to a certain extent. I don't want to feed my kids' fears of the unkown, but I also don't want to dismiss true fear in their lives.
Confession: I have regret for poo-pooing my son's fears all those years. I wonder if he felt he could ever really share with us- I also wonder if he felt very alone in his fears sometimes. It's a tremendous burden for a little guy to bear.
I tried so hard to make him believe nothing was there that I may have made a mistake. Words I meant to use as a means of imparting strength could have just been eroding his confidence that mom and dad believe in him and would ultimately protect him.
When TAPS goes on about how if it involves kids, they consider it a priority, it's the only time I really subscribe to their philosophy. It is a delicate road to navigate as a parent. I'm encountering similar questions from Dakota. She asks me what ghosts are made out of and how come they can be invisible. Her curiosity is strong. She hasn't shown any fear, except for TV shows and movies that have ghosts in them.
I try to keep her from the dramatic stuff. I think that adding the imagination of movie-makers doesn't help her any. My daughter, however, talks openly about what ghosts might be and how they might affect people who are near them. Dakota must hear this since she is sitting right there. But, she has never shown any fear about sleeping alone. When she sleeps over at my place, she just goes right to bed. Though she sometimes wants our dog, Jack, to sleep in her room. That is fine with Jack. He sees his job as protecting her.
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Post by ♥~KarinaKay~♥ on Sept 8, 2008 0:40:46 GMT -11
It really is. I am glad that she is to a point where she is not afraid, but I wonder if she really should be. I read on another site about shadow people not being good. That is some of what she sees. I wouldn't recommend fear, because if you fear something you give it a certain degree of power over you. Some people become depressed and feel helpless in their haunted house, and no one should have to feel that way in their own home. Caution, certainly.
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Post by Damini on Sept 8, 2008 0:54:15 GMT -11
JJ, given your situation, I would have made the same choices, especially with the medical issues that went along with the situation. I agree with NW that you are a good mom for making the choices you did. You were looking out for the best interest of the child which is what any good parent does.
Cougar, great point about the dramatic stuff. I don't even let her watch GH or any related shows as well as anything scary in the movies. I try to keep her away from it as much as possible because I don't know if she could differentiate easily between what is true and what is'nt. I grew up very afraid of ghosts after a personal experience I had (I will post in another thread) and it has affected me all of my life. I don't want her to go through the same. Caution is a great word, and I think that I will use it and see what happens next.
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