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Post by xXSpookyXx on Oct 7, 2008 7:25:28 GMT -11
Today at work it occurred to me that typically, when a co-worker is about to express a negative about another worker, it typically starts out with a variation of this kind of phrase..."Now I like Shirley (name as example) and all so don't get me wrong.....but....." and then such phrase is proceeded by some kind of venting about said person. It's not only at work I see this happen but in many settings, and something I myself have even done. Does anyone else notice this particular cliche'?
Another one I notice often is the "Can I be honest?" phrase asked. As if the responder is going to say "Nope, don't want you to be, I prefer dishonesty." lol
Anyone have any other cliche's they can think of that they hear a lot from their area?
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Post by LCellini on Oct 7, 2008 7:34:25 GMT -11
I'm not going to lie I do that.
I like (insert name) but she drives me insane. I think its my way of apologizing for what I'm going to say. Usually it's someone that I do like but there are often times when they drive me crazy.
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Post by nowhammies on Oct 7, 2008 8:14:36 GMT -11
There are several phrases that, when used, apparently excuse the user from talking smack about people.
No offense, but.... So and so blah blah blah....bless her heart. I'm not prejudiced, but.... Far be it from me to talk about someone behind their back, but....
It goes on.
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Post by xXSpookyXx on Oct 7, 2008 8:27:58 GMT -11
There are several phrases that, when used, apparently excuse the user from talking smack about people. No offense, but.... So and so blah blah blah....bless her heart. I'm not prejudiced, but.... Far be it from me to talk about someone behind their back, but.... It goes on. haha Soo very true about all of those! When I hear some one start out with "No offense..." I brace myself to be offended. The bless her heart thing, always seems to end some negative rant about some one else. "I'm not prejudice, but..." I get ready to hear a prejudice kind of remark and the last phrase always seems to be followed by some sort of gossip!
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Post by LCellini on Oct 7, 2008 8:33:46 GMT -11
I like to gossip at work I'm a bad person but not to offend...I work with a bunch on looney toons! Lol I wonder where this started, I'm thinking a church.
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Post by «Foz» on Oct 7, 2008 8:36:00 GMT -11
I have to admit I rarely (if ever) use any of those cliches. I usually just come right out and say I don't like someone without trying to make it sound better. I also tend to just tell someone to their face if I don't like them instead of saying anything behind their back.
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Post by nowhammies on Oct 7, 2008 10:05:45 GMT -11
I have to admit I rarely (if ever) use any of those cliches. I usually just come right out and say I don't like someone without trying to make it sound better. I also tend to just tell someone to their face if I don't like them instead of saying anything behind their back. Yeah - I'm not good at the "sandwich" form of negative feedback (sandwich the feed back between two positive pieces of feedback). I typically just come right out and say what I need to. I try to do it tactfully. Occasionally I succeed.
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Post by graphicsguy on Oct 7, 2008 11:33:42 GMT -11
I do the "I'm sure she's a nice perso n and all, but..." all the time. if you met my co-workers, you would say the same thing
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Post by hoobsmom on Oct 17, 2008 19:59:34 GMT -11
I have a nutty mean friend who I am distancing from. Her favorite thing to say is I dont mean to mean but..........then she goes one about my hair my close, my kids, my house. then when I tell her its none of her concern sho goes into crazy lady. So I am hiding from her so do tell where I am.
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Post by Barnabas Collins on Oct 23, 2008 15:47:49 GMT -11
Old one here..."Head them off at the pass"
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