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Post by chrissy on Jul 15, 2008 13:42:09 GMT -11
I am threading this in hopes that Im not the only one with a lil devil spawn! My daughter is 3 going 30 and I cant take the lil attitude she is getting. She is now started nnot only taking fits, but hitting mommy, swinging at me with items (such as tonight with her plastic fishing rod) telling me Im mean cause I asked her to clean up after herself and says she hates me . I knew having a kid this was going to happen but I was hoping for it to hold off till about 13 or so. Im getting it at 3!! I pray to god its a phase, otherwise this lil red headed devil is goign to drive mama to drink! lol bad enough after she swung at me tonight I put her in her bed fora time out (ya like that works) and went outside to have a cigarette (which I havent had in god knows how long) just to avoid calling Dave telling him to leave the firehouse and take her cause im out. Anyone else go through this stuff or am I the only one??
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Post by blondeness on Jul 15, 2008 16:39:06 GMT -11
Wish I was there, I'd catch a smoke with you and lament the tumultuous three's. I feel ya, it's never an easy road to walk. Every family dynamic is so different. I know you, Chrissy, and you are smart enough to set rules and boundaries- so I'm pretty sure it's just a phase.
I once read something that really helped me parent more objectively when my kids were under five: when your child does something 'wrong' ask yourself if it was foolishness (ie, they've been told 100 times not to do that yet did it anyway) or if it was childishness (they honestly didn't know any better and it was a first time offense). If it was foolishness, we spanked on the bottom and told them it would happen again if they did it. We followed through with it then... no matter how exhausting or inconvenient it was to do so.
Thinking back on it now, I really do feel your frustration! My son is 11 and daughter is 15 and they are great kids. I sometimes want to send my daughter to Africa somewhere to dig wells, but in my heart I know she is grounded and will return to sanity once the hormones stop raging.
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Post by (:Train05:) on Jul 16, 2008 6:05:49 GMT -11
The only devil child I know is this 3 month is this 3 month old I have.
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Post by bowl on Jul 16, 2008 7:48:00 GMT -11
I blame television.
My son is a smart hiney and he hardly listens. I was a single dad trying to raise my first kid, I didn't know what to do. So stupid me, I let him watch television and play video games at a young age. I've cut a lot of the non sense out, but it's already too late. Sit down with your kids sometimes while they are watching Nicklodeon or Cartoon network, the one half hour show I watched contained the word hate 7 times, stupid 18 times, and all kinds of various insultive words. If I could go back (and re-raise him) I would, I'de do it all over again!
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Post by chrissy on Jul 16, 2008 11:59:21 GMT -11
Thanks guys ... JJ tonight is booze night for me lol She has been really good today. I dont know if its a phase or if the family trait of crazy and psycho is setting in at an early age lol Either way... taking one day at a time. My problem is im bitchy softy. I will threaten to spank or give her time outs, but I cant do it. If I spank her bum I feel aweful right after and immediately hug her and talk to her. Same with a time out , I give her a time out and 2 seconds later I will sit on her bed with her and try to talk to her explaining what she did wrong and why its wrong etc. I dont know why I keep doing it, I know she cant really understand shes so small, but I keep going with the talking thing.
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Post by chrissy on Jul 16, 2008 12:00:09 GMT -11
Ohhh and Bowl I know what you mean I watched sponge bob with her the other day and all i neded t see was "no crusty crabs in the bikini bottom" I was like DONE! lol
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Post by LCellini on Jul 16, 2008 12:34:03 GMT -11
i don't know what you guys are talking about, i was a perfect child and i still am
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Post by MysticalKnight on Jul 16, 2008 14:19:23 GMT -11
One thing I learned in raising my kids (still working on it BYW LOL) ... BE CONSISTENT. I was terribly inconsistent when my kids were young, and it caused a lot of problems. Set rules and boundaries and follow through when you say something. I tended to say one thing and then, in the end, give in and do another thing. Temporarily it might have seemed the easier path, but in the long term, it created confusion.
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Post by lissleigh on Jul 25, 2008 2:59:52 GMT -11
Chrissy you are not alone. My son is 18 months. And as much as I love him, I say put him back LOL (ouch) He scratches, bites, pulls hair, throws his head back. He is a demon. My mom tells me all the time that I was never like that at his age. So we deff know where he gets it. (sperm donor). So your not the only one. I feel bad telling him no and giving him a tap on the hiney but I know its for the best. The biting is one thing I'm having a hard time breaking and the throwing his head back is finally calming down the only time he does that now is when he is having a fit. He scratches when he wants to get down from my arms or is going to have a tantrum. the hair pulling is pretty new. and i wish it would stop. When i give him time out in his porta crib he climbs out. I think i need super nanny LOL
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Post by poultrygeist on Jul 25, 2008 12:26:15 GMT -11
My 16 yr old is absent-minded but very caring and well liked. My 14 yr old may get a one-way ticket to Katmandu. She has a cell phone addiction, but that is okay because it makes discipline easy.
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Post by chrissy on Jul 25, 2008 12:49:38 GMT -11
liss.. lol olivia did the biting thing and i asked her doc and he said to bite her back .. not like take a chunk out .. lol but enough for him to realize it hurts and not to do it again .. i didnt bite her back .. my mother bit her back once and it did help .. it was an aweful phase.. and she also did the head tossing thing .. so your running right up my alley lady! lol and just when you think it gets better... the tail drops the horns come out and the demon spawns are old enough to knowwww what they are doing ... enter my devil. lol liss prepare for the worst at age 3 ! lol
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Post by kgbagent333 on Jul 25, 2008 13:22:44 GMT -11
I am threading this in hopes that Im not the only one with a lil devil spawn! My daughter is 3 going 30 and I cant take the lil attitude she is getting. She is now started nnot only taking fits, but hitting mommy, swinging at me with items (such as tonight with her plastic fishing rod) telling me Im mean cause I asked her to clean up after herself and says she hates me . I knew having a kid this was going to happen but I was hoping for it to hold off till about 13 or so. Im getting it at 3!! I pray to god its a phase, otherwise this lil red headed devil is goign to drive mama to drink! lol bad enough after she swung at me tonight I put her in her bed fora time out (ya like that works) and went outside to have a cigarette (which I havent had in god knows how long) just to avoid calling Dave telling him to leave the firehouse and take her cause im out. Anyone else go through this stuff or am I the only one?? Wait till your little devil spawn turns 13. I'd tell you but why ruin the surprise!
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Post by lissleigh on Jul 25, 2008 13:34:04 GMT -11
liss.. lol olivia did the biting thing and i asked her doc and he said to bite her back .. not like take a chunk out .. lol but enough for him to realize it hurts and not to do it again .. i didnt bite her back .. my mother bit her back once and it did help .. it was an aweful phase.. and she also did the head tossing thing .. so your running right up my alley lady! lol and just when you think it gets better... the tail drops the horns come out and the demon spawns are old enough to knowwww what they are doing ... enter my devil. lol liss prepare for the worst at age 3 ! lol chris, i have tried the biting back thing. doesnt work he still does it. When he goes to bite my dad my dad takes his own arm and shoves it down the baby's trout. baby doesnt like it but he still does it. when i told the doctor about him whaming his head on everything he told me to put a pilliow between him and the thing he is banging it on. so i said u want me to follow him around with a pillow im better off duct taping it to his head. Im so not looking to 3 years old now. Thanks chris
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