sandstone
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Post by sandstone on Jul 17, 2008 16:24:25 GMT -11
i understand gg, i've never been on a date either. i went to homecoming with this guy who my mother set me up with but that doesn't count. it was in a group and my mother and a friends mother also drove. and i was moving to vegas in 2 months so nothing could have gone anywhere that was long winded, i need to be less shy. i annoy myself often I think the trick is going out to have fun doing something you enjoy, and not in looking for a relationship. Find friends to have fun with. Men notice girls who are having fun. People comment more on the fact that I smile a lot than on anything else about me.
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Post by hoobsmom on Jul 17, 2008 16:49:53 GMT -11
i understand gg, i've never been on a date either. i went to homecoming with this guy who my mother set me up with but that doesn't count. it was in a group and my mother and a friends mother also drove. and i was moving to vegas in 2 months so nothing could have gone anywhere that was long winded, i need to be less shy. i annoy myself often LC you are a beautiful girl with a wonderful heart. Just show people the person we see everyday. I was painfully shy until I was about 14 and I went to work as a bus girl and graduated to a waitress. I had to let my more assertive side show. I realized I love to talk and I love meeting new people. Your terrific and we love you. We have never met face to face but your great personality has won us over. Sorry if that was mushy I just hate to see my friends sell themselves short.
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Post by bowl on Jul 17, 2008 23:52:45 GMT -11
My worst date ever was at a high school dance. I wasn't very popular in school because our family didn't have a lot of money like the rest of the kids that lived around there. I had no problems with meeting and dating girls from different areas, just not from my home town. I really liked this girl and she was beautiful, so I asked her to a winter formal. She was from another city. She said yes so we went. The whole time I was there people ripped on me and made fun of me. She was very nice about it, but I knew she was uncomfortable. I cut the night short and I never called her again. I was too embarrassed to speak to her because of how the others made me out to look like. I regret not dating her again, but I learned a valuable lesson from the experience. Never let other people label you something that you're not. Don't accept other's negative opinions and don't let those opinions shape your life. After that incident I made sure everyone from my school knew that I wasn't the poor dorky kid they thought I was. I ended up being more confident and I met a lot more girls than the lame guys in my school. For those of you that haven't been on dates and you feel you can't find anyone... Just be yourself, that way you'll meet someone that likes you for you, not what you pretend to be. That makes a good relationship.
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Post by «Foz» on Jul 18, 2008 2:31:34 GMT -11
I know how you feel about not being popular in high school, Bowl. I had my small group of friends but I always got picked on for something. But I still don't really care what people think of me - if someone doesn't like me for some reason, then they're not worth my time. I could get almost any guy I wanted as long as they didn't go to my school. I never dated one guy from my school in high school. Besides, there was always too much drama and too many rumors going around, and it would have been even worse if the guys went to my school.
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Post by LCellini on Jul 18, 2008 4:35:54 GMT -11
LC you are a beautiful girl with a wonderful heart. Just show people the person we see everyday. I was painfully shy until I was about 14 and I went to work as a bus girl and graduated to a waitress. I had to let my more assertive side show. I realized I love to talk and I love meeting new people. Your terrific and we love you. We have never met face to face but your great personality has won us over. Sorry if that was mushy I just hate to see my friends sell themselves short. thanks deb just the thing i needed to start my day off right
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Post by hoobsmom on Jul 18, 2008 8:39:18 GMT -11
It's just the truth LC your a very special girl.
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nowhammies
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Post by nowhammies on Jul 18, 2008 10:09:04 GMT -11
I think as you get older (at least I hope), dating becomes less superficial and more about who you are as a person. Looks fade - but a good heart and a good soul is something that you want to spend a lifetime with. It seems that everyone here has good hearts, good spirits, wit and intelligence. In the end, those are the qualities win out. Get out there and let those qualities shine and you will draw people to you.
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CougarBob
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Post by CougarBob on Jul 18, 2008 12:55:47 GMT -11
I think as you get older (at least I hope), dating becomes less superficial and more about who you are as a person. Looks fade - but a good heart and a good soul is something that you want to spend a lifetime with. It seems that everyone here has good hearts, good spirits, wit and intelligence. In the end, those are the qualities win out. Get out there and let those qualities shine and you will draw people to you. Wow! Well said, Karen.
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MysticalKnight
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Post by MysticalKnight on Jul 19, 2008 2:47:49 GMT -11
So right Karen.
(Senior prom. Can't go into details or it will throw me into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder again ...)
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Post by LCellini on Jul 19, 2008 4:35:59 GMT -11
omg MK i'm sorry to hear it was that bad. i didn't even go to my senior prom. my cousin was getting married so i flew to maryland and went to a wedding.
but i don't think i would have gone anyway, i hate my high school by that point and wanted nothing to do with it.
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Post by lissleigh on Jul 19, 2008 6:30:54 GMT -11
I had this one date that was horrible. I was kinda seeing this guy. We went to dinner, and after dinner my best friend at the time asked me to stop by realy quick, I asked my date if it was ok if we made a pit stop. And he said sure he would love to meet my friend. We get to her house, and it seems like they knew each other already (what a small world). We stayed there a little longer then planned, but decided we would finish out our date and then i would head home. We decided to go to his favorite beach and just hangout. The date finished off good. And I started to really like him, thinking he was liking me too. The next day aroun 11am my friend called me and told me that when I went to the bathroom the night before that my date was hitting on here and making moves on her, and that night before we left he shook her hand and slipped his number to her. Then around 6pm he called me and asked if me and her wanted to hang out again cause he had a lot of fun last night with us. I turned around and said Do you wanna see me again or her? he had nothing to say and I never talked to him again
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Post by graphicsguy on Jul 19, 2008 8:55:51 GMT -11
Reading through these makes me kind of glad I've had a date, actually.
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Post by poultrygeist on Jul 19, 2008 11:11:43 GMT -11
I started the evening reluctantly because a friend set me up with a girl he worked with. "Everythings cool", he said (Famous last words). I go by her house - which was nice from the outside - she comes out before I get in the driveway. We go for coffee and spend almost two hours talking. So not only is this girl cute, she's smart too! She tells me she's hungry and I offer dinner. I know just the right place, not too casual, yet not over the top expensive. It says "you're worth a nice dinner, but I'm not obsessive." So we pull up and she gets all nervous and tells me that she can't eat there. Why? Her husband works there! What? Huh? Yup, I heard that right. We had an awkwardly silent drive as I took her home...
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Post by blondeness on Jul 19, 2008 12:26:59 GMT -11
I can honestly say I have never had a bad date. (you have to have a date first before you can have a bad date) Graphicsguy, thats so sad! You need to get out there! My worst date occurred one summer when I had a job at a fly-in fishing lodge in Northern Canada. One of the guests was this rich American CEO-type guy who came out every year with his buddies. He decieded that I was the perfect woman - educated, liked to fish - what more could you ask for. And he wanted me to meet his son. He actually booked a second trip that year just to drag his son to Canada to meet me. My boss presurred me into spending an evening out fishing with this guy's kid. The lodge cook even made up a picnic supper for us. I was so annoyed. I told my boss that if the kid tried anything I was going to toss him out of the boat. As it turned out, the poor kid was gay. His dad didn't believe that was OK, and figured that a cute girl would 'fix' the problem. Once the kid confessed that part, we actually did have fun fishing. Since we got along so well after that his dad was hopeful, so my boss didn't lose him as a customer. OMG, Sandy- that is the best story ever! It should be in a movie...
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sandstone
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Post by sandstone on Jul 19, 2008 12:49:56 GMT -11
Graphicsguy, thats so sad! You need to get out there! My worst date occurred one summer when I had a job at a fly-in fishing lodge in Northern Canada. One of the guests was this rich American CEO-type guy who came out every year with his buddies. He decieded that I was the perfect woman - educated, liked to fish - what more could you ask for. And he wanted me to meet his son. He actually booked a second trip that year just to drag his son to Canada to meet me. My boss presurred me into spending an evening out fishing with this guy's kid. The lodge cook even made up a picnic supper for us. I was so annoyed. I told my boss that if the kid tried anything I was going to toss him out of the boat. As it turned out, the poor kid was gay. His dad didn't believe that was OK, and figured that a cute girl would 'fix' the problem. Once the kid confessed that part, we actually did have fun fishing. Since we got along so well after that his dad was hopeful, so my boss didn't lose him as a customer. OMG, Sandy- that is the best story ever! It should be in a movie... Thanks JJ. I actually corresponded with the kid for a while. It made his dad happy. What his dad didn't know didn't hurt anyone. But I had to cut things off when the dad wanted to fly me to Houston for xmas. Things were getting out of hand at that point. I told him I was too young to leave home at xmas time (I was 18), and way too young to get serious about just one guy!
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